Imagine what life would be like if we hung onto every thought we had? I recently discovered a study by Tseng and Poppenk, which concluded that healthy young adults have an average of 6000+ thoughts each day. Wow, sounds like a lot!
Sometimes our thoughts can be reminders of tasks that we’ve forgotten about, eg., “Did I turn off the coffee machine?” Sometimes our thoughts are centred around a recent event or how we see ourselves, eg., “I mess everything up; when I finally spoke up, no one said anything.”
Thoughts come and go. However, thoughts begin to be powerful when we hang on to one over another. Thoughts can give us self-confidence when we hold onto an encouraging word from a trusted person. Thoughts can also make us think negatively about ourselves when we don’t do well on a test, or we don’t complete a task. Our thoughts can influence ways in which we view ourselves, others and the world around us.
Here is a simple example of how unchecked thoughts can spiral out of control: We see your friend down the street but they don’t wave or acknowledge us. We might think, “This person doesn’t like me, she never wanted to be my friend…,” then we might feel sad and start to isolate ourselves from others. Which leads us to have less time with others, and therefore, re-enforcing the thought that we are unlikeable. On the other hand, we might say to ourselves, “They probably don’t see or hear us,” leaving us to feel indifferent and more likely to say hi next time, which helps us build on the friendship, and the belief that some people do like us.
The same event can impact people differently based on the lens in which they view themselves, others, and the world. Considering the fact that we have so many thoughts a day, and the power that thoughts can have, what should we do with our thoughts? Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) looks at the thoughts we have and how they impact our emotions and behaviours. Here are some simple keys to managing your thoughts using this previous example:
If you are, or someone you know is, having thoughts of suicide or self harm, or are in distress, please call one of the numbers below right away (24-hour help lines):
Generally: Crisis Services Canada: 1.833.456.4566
Call 911 or go to your nearest hospital.
Ottawa:
Ottawa Mental Health Crisis Line 613.722.6914, or 1.866.996.0991 if outside of Ottawa
Distress Centre of Ottawa and Region: 613.238.3311
Youth Services Bureau 24/7 Crisis Line: 613.260.2360 or 1.877.377.7775 (Eastern ON)
Kids Help Phone: 1.800.668.6868 or Text 686868
Centre d’aide 24/7: (FR) 1.866.277.3553
Tel-aide Outaouais: (FR) 613.741.6433
Greater Toronto Area:
Suicide and Crisis Hotline:
1.800.448.3000
Mental Health Crisis Line: 1.888.893.8333
Distress Centres of Greater Toronto:
416.408.HELP (4357)
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