The POWER of Leaning Into Anxiety!
We all struggle with anxiety from time to time and it is completely normal! Our brains and body are wired in such a way that anxiety is motivated by our need for safety. Sometimes anxiety is triggered by something more concrete where there are high risks, but other times anxiety can be triggered by things that seem less obvious. So how should we respond when we’re faced with anxiety?
First, it is important to keep in mind that anxiety serves a purpose: That we protect ourselves. Since our brains and bodies are wired in such a way that anxiety is a necessity, it can never be cured, but if we can be okay with the fact that we will always have some anxiety, we can start working towards managing it when it feels like it is out of our control.
This can be done once we learn to lean into the anxiety rather than pushing it away, ignoring it, or catastrophizing the issue. The first step is to become mindful of how your body feels when you become anxious. It can be felt in different parts of your body, it may change your breathing or temperature, and it can make you feel like you’re sick. It can be helpful to implement some breathing exercises or relaxation techniques to be present with your body.
The second step is to be aware of the thoughts you are having while you’re anxious. How you interpret what is happening to you or around you can impact the anxiety and make it better or worse. It might be important to ask what it is you’re thinking at the moment, and what meaning you’re making around the issue. For example, the simplest thought such as, “It’s okay to feel this way,” or “It’s not okay to feel this way,” can make or break your coping progress.
The last step is to notice how your thoughts and physical symptoms of anxiety are making you feel. Naming each emotion that you feel can help to ease the intensity and help you understand what you are experiencing. For instance, “I’m feeling self-conscious because… and I’m feeling tired because… and I’m feeling angry because…”
When we remind ourselves that anxiety is normal, we can give up the fight on trying to run away or escape. Instead of these responses, a more realistic and healthier goal is to become aware of our physical symptoms, thoughts, and emotions more often. Once we are more aware, we open the door to accepting our current state which, in turn, gives anxiety less power, and gives you more POWER!
If you would like help conquering anxiety, please ask for me at Rock of Peace Counselling.
Christine Kim, Registered Psychotherapist